Monday, June 15

If you're going to walk a mile in my shoes, rest assured they'll be comfortable ones

Well the parents and the brother are gone and I don't want to talk about it. Silver lining: Far fewer things will be broken/maimed/untidied.

Speaking of silver, Costume Diva is having something of a wedding shoe crisis. Head on over and see if you can help her out.

I can't be of much assistance, because I picked out some silver and white patent flats to wear on my wedding day after looking at approximately four pairs of shoes in one large shoe warehouse in Gurnee Mills. As I was telling her this (via comment), it suddenly hit me how non-traditional that choice was. I mean, who wears flats on her wedding day?

(Unless she's Katie Holmes...

...Oh, snap!)

My wedding shoes weren't strappy or sexy or sleek. But you know what they were? Comfortable as heck. And kind of sassy.

Here, look:
Notice my fashion magazine, coy hen-toed stance. I never understood why women (even who are photographed on the street) stand hen-toed, until I had Noah take a photo of my feet in my normal, toes-out stance. I looked like a duck. Apparently, looking like a hen is better.

As lots of friends like to joke, I was a child bride (I turned 21 on our honeymoon). I'm not sure if it was my age or just my personality, but I was totally laid back about our wedding. I didn't stress about the shoes. I didn't have wedding programs. I didn't even have a trial run for my hairdo (I'll wait for the shocked murmuring to subside...)

Sometimes I see other brides doing fun, creative things for their weddings, and I feel a twinge of regret for not making our wedding more of a Thing.

(cue sentimental sitcom music that suggests the conflict wrap-up is ahead) But then I look at Ethan, and I see myself in him, and I can't help but feel happy to be who I am, because who I am is part of what made him.

He even has my philosophy about shoe selection:

Yep, he picked these himself: One Stride Rite white bootie, one two-sizes-too-small baby Croc. What can I say? He doesn't care what's popular, only what's comfortable.


Maggie May said...

he looks charming, for sure

Jen said...

Comfy shoes are the only shoes, IMHO! I love your wedding shoes, they are adorable and look WAY more comfortable than the witchy-pointy shoes I tortured myself in (what I was thinking, I don't know). Do you play the piano in the background of the pic?

Tina said...

Oh, girl, we are of like minds. I was 23 when Scott and I got married two years ago. I picked my shoes because Scott is the Tom Cruise to my Katie Holmes height. They were also comfy - ballerina slippers. Which were completely hidden under my immense dress, so why get cute, painful shoes?!? =)

I didn't stress about a lot of stuff either. I let my bridesmaids wear literally WHATEVER they wanted for jewelry and shoes. Which was cute, since my best friend wore pink ballerina shoes (with ribbons lacing up her calves) under her red floor length dress. Whatevs! We had fun. And no one had owie feet unless they forced it upon themselves.

Anonymous said...

I love that you wore flats at your wedding. Smart, practical, and anti-wedding-madness. I've photographed dozens of weddings and no matter how long brides spend picking out their shoes and dresses and flowers, they all look the same.

You chose wisely, beautiful. You chose for yourself.

Erin said...

Thanks for the retroactive support guys! I thought I was very clever to pick flats. And I also thought they helped me look small and dainty, since I just can't fake tall and lithe, no matter how high the heels.

Anonymous said...

Poppy wants a picture of the two different shoed baby

mrs. fuzz said...

Sometimes I regret not making my wedding more of a THING too. My dad offered us all the money in place of the fancy wedding if we would elope. Now I think that would've been awesome, but I'm glad we did what we did. My dad also said something else that was profound to me. All that matters is the ceremony and the promise that you made to each other. Flowers, cake, people, decorations won't matter at all in the long run. I thought, "whatever dad" at the time, but now I see what he meant. Cute shoes by the way. And I know exactly what you mean about the Hollywood stance. They look ridiculous sometimes, but I guess it's better than candid caveman poses.

I was 22 when we got married and I thought that was young. But then I met a girl that got married when she was 17! Her husband was 22 I think. She had to have parental permission. She was from a little place in Ohio. So weird that she's been married for 10 years and she's just 27 this year. She is going through a bit of a who am I and what do I want with my life phase right now because she didn't really have the chance to do that, but they are still happily married.

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